Deleting Facebook yet you probably use it to connect with friends or even making money might not be the best idea. So that was off my list though I won’t deny the fact that at some point, it did cross my mind and currently I “broke up” with my personal account and decided to focus on only my page. However, before the break up I decided to just take a break from the whole platform itself.
I joined Facebook back in 2012. At the moment I honestly had no good reason for joining besides the FOMO. But for the next few months, I was on Facebook for a sole intention of just having that one easy location online where I could share simple inspiring messages with the rest of the world. That was before I got into digital influencing and then, that’s when social media became my bread and butter. That’s when I started to get addicted to Facebook that I couldn’t even spend a day without logging in to check on what’s happening on those streets; who is fighting who, who did what plus more.
I was so addicted that I could even carry my phone to school and use it in class -illegally of course. And usually, I never ran out of data because the first thing that I usually did right away when given pocket money, was putting some money aside for buying MBs.
There were many times that I used to walk with my head looking down on my phone (sure Facebook junkies can relate). I could never engage in any offline conversation 100% without getting distracted, always stayed in my room chatting both the days and nights away. If you ever needed to ask someone what was trending on Facebook, I was that always updated person for you. However, my social life off the internet was so dead. Facebook disconnected me from other interests, I was taking in other people’s projections, and it was seriously draining my energy.
Good for me though, I eventually realized how this was affecting my life and knew I had to do something about it. I asked myself what I needed to do next because of course I knew that I was the only person responsible for this and the only one with the power to save myself. Then after searching and watching several self improvement videos where different individuals were sharing their different experiences after taking a break and some actually quitting Facebook, I chose to do the former. And before I could change my mind, I uninstalled the app then decided that I was going to take some good weeks off. I won’t lie to you, it wasn’t easy for the first few days but I eventually adopted the new life that I had created for myself. I explored other interests, discovered my other abilities, and rebuilt my relationships.
Even though in the beginning it was just a short break for me, I enjoyed it so much that even when I chose to return, I knew I could now limit my time on Facebook. I was so much aware of how I could use Facebook and not for Facebook to use me. As of today, I only open my app to update my pages and engage with my followers plus reading a few helpful posts from the groups that I willingly joined.
I can spend days without using Facebook and I would still be totally fine. I won’t miss mindlessly scrolling the never-ending newsfeed with the intention of searching for something uplifting only to bump into depressing shit. I’m now enjoying my life of a little less anxiety.
Sometimes you need to take time off from scrolling, taking in the negative energies and other people’s opinions about you just to have more alone time and focus on YOU. You need to be out there in the real world more often.
If there is one thing I would tell the former version of myself knowing what I know today, I would tell her to take care of herself first. Self love is not selfish. Before you get to lose yourself in living other people’s lives online, find yourself first. Discover who you truly are and how far you can go. This will help you not to engage in unhealthy comparisons and competitions on social media. And trust me; other people’s judgments won’t ever bother you again.